So just to post and explore our topic and different ideas, and for Betty's benefit, here's a little bit of what we discussed.  We are still on the topic of eulogizing but it is such a rich topic.  One potentially specific question I thought we might be able to use was 'who do we eulogize at death/funeral'.  Is the person we are eulogizing the "true" person or an idealized portrait?  Is it the eulogizer's idea of the person?  Do we ignore or augment certain aspects of the person?  If it is an old person or troubled person, do we ignore the bad, focus on the good?  If it is a young person, how do we focus on what little life was lived or instead do we mourn what could have been?

Any other thoughts?